About Kendra

Why I Do This Work

I've spent over two decades working with couples—and I've learned that the couples who struggle most aren't the ones with the biggest problems. They're the ones who've never been taught how relationships actually work.

High-achievers are especially prone to this. You're used to solving problems through effort and intelligence. But relationships don't work that way. The same drive that built your career can actually undermine your marriage if you don't understand attachment, emotional safety, and the patterns that keep couples stuck.

I built Concierge Couples Counseling specifically for people like you—people who want real results, not generic advice that sounds nice but doesn't create change.

My Approach

I practice Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), which is the most research-backed approach to couples work available. EFT isn't about learning communication techniques or fair-fighting rules. It's about understanding the attachment patterns that drive your conflicts and creating secure emotional connection.

I'm also trained in the Gottman Method, which gives me tools for understanding what predicts relationship success (and failure) based on decades of research. And I have specialized training in sex therapy, because intimacy issues require expertise that most couples therapists don't have.

I lead the sessions, but I lead collaboratively. I'll be direct about what I see. I'll redirect conversations that are going in circles. I'll ask both of you to look at your own part in the pattern. And if something I'm doing isn't landing, I want to hear that. I adjust. This isn't about me being right. It's about helping you move.

Therapy That Ends

I don't believe in indefinite therapy. The work we do together is designed to create real change and then conclude. You come in, we figure out the patterns, you build new ones, and you leave. Staying in therapy should be a conscious choice to invest in maintenance, not a habit or a dependency.

We start weekly because that's what builds momentum. As you demonstrate follow-through in your daily life, we reduce frequency. That progression reflects real growth, not withdrawal. The measure of progress isn't what happens in sessions. It's what changes at home.

Accountability Without Judgment

Most couples who come to me are stuck. That doesn't mean they don't care. It usually means they're exhausted, hurt, or overwhelmed. I get that.

I will still ask you to look at your own role. Not to assign blame, but because responsibility is the fastest way out of pain. If conversations start going circular, I'll name it and redirect. If something is being avoided, we'll go there. This can feel uncomfortable. I approach that discomfort with steadiness and respect, not lectures.

If you want someone to nod along and validate your feelings for an hour a week, I'm not the right fit. If you want someone who will help you understand what's actually happening in your relationship and give you the tools to change it, let's talk.

Why 90-Minute Sessions

Standard 50-minute therapy was designed for individual work. Couples therapy is more complex—two perspectives, interactional patterns, emotions running high. In a 50-minute session, you're often just getting to the real issue when time runs out.

90-minute sessions let us go deep. We can work through difficult material without constantly stopping and restarting. Most of my clients find they need fewer total sessions because we accomplish more in each one.