Neurodiverse Couples Therapy

Who This Is For

You are in a relationship where one or both partners have autism, ADHD, or both, or you suspect it, and standard couples advice has made the frustration worse.

"Just communicate more" and "show more empathy" assume two brains that process emotion, conversation, and sensory input the same way. Yours do not, and you need someone who understands that difference without treating either of you as the problem to be fixed.

Why Standard Advice Fails

Most couples therapy assumes both partners experience feelings, communication, and sensory input in the same way. In a neurodiverse relationship, what looks like not caring can be emotion on a delay, and what looks like not listening can be sensory overload.

What looks like forgetting can be an executive function difference. If nobody names that, you stay in the same fight, one of you feeling blamed and the other feeling missed.

How Neurodiverse Couples Therapy Works

Understanding Your Wiring: We start by understanding how each of you takes in information, emotion, and sensory input. You do not need a formal diagnosis to begin. If a diagnosis is already part of the story, we use it as information, and we do not use it as a weapon.

Translating Across Neurotypes: I help you understand each other's experience. I am a Certified Neurodiverse Couples Therapist (AANE). A different nervous system is a difference, and I will say so when one of you hides behind the diagnosis or when the other treats a neurological difference like a character flaw.

Building Custom Solutions: We build communication and connection strategies that fit your actual brains. A generic script assumes a brain you do not have.

What We Address

• Communication differences and misunderstandings
• Emotional regulation and overwhelm
• Sensory needs and accommodation
• Executive function and household management
• Intimacy and connection across neurotypes
• The impact of a late diagnosis on the relationship

My Approach

I work from a neurodiversity-affirming perspective. The aim is a relationship that can honor what each of you needs, and I will be direct about the pattern between you and about your contribution to it.

I am trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy, the Gottman Method at Level 3, and Relational Life Therapy, and I am a Certified Neurodiverse Couples Therapist (AANE). Sessions are 90 minutes on Zoom. I am licensed in Massachusetts, Connecticut, New Hampshire and Rhode Island.