Who I Work With
Couples Therapy for Finance and Wall Street Professionals
90-minute private Zoom sessions for a finance career, not for money coaching.
What this career does to a relationship
This is couples therapy for people who work in finance. I work on the marriage that has to live beside the markets, the commute, and the phone, and I do not manage a portfolio, build a budget, or tell you what to do with a bonus. How much of your evening still belongs to a screen your partner cannot see?
Market hours and the Metro-North commute
The day starts before the open, and the ride home can land you at the door already spent, so your partner gets the last of you on a train schedule you do not control. We look at what that arrival has become. Does anyone in the house still feel you walked in on purpose?
Bonus-cycle volatility
Compensation in this work swings, and the mood of the household often swings with it. A strong year can feel like proof the sacrifice was worth it, and a thin year can feel like a verdict on the marriage itself. We separate the number from the way you treat each other when the number moves.
Long travel weeks
Investor meetings, roadshows, and weeks in another city take one of you out of the house for days. The parent who stays stops waiting up, and coming home starts to feel like a visit, which is usually where the resentment sits. We work on how you come back into the relationship.
Money as power in the marriage
In some marriages the person who earns more begins to hold more votes, without anyone agreeing to that rule out loud, and money becomes a way to end an argument about respect, time, or whose life bent. When money is being used to settle who matters, that is the conversation. I do not optimize your spending.
The partner who runs everything at home
One of you may carry the children, the house, and the social life the job quietly requires, and that labor is easy to treat as support for the career. The firm did not provide your partner. We give that work a real place in the conversation, with the person who does it in the room as a partner.
The phone that never leaves
The phone on the nightstand is a third presence in the evening. A message after dinner can undo an hour of actually being together, and both of you learn to wait for the interruption. We decide what the phone is allowed to break, while you are still looking at each other.
Why 90-minute video sessions fit
Ninety minutes gives a couple in this life enough time to put the tape and the train down and actually arrive, because shorter meetings tend to stay on logistics. You did not call me to renegotiate pickup.
The session is on Zoom, so the Metro-North ride is not followed by another trip across town, and a travel week does not have to cancel the work if you can close a door where you are.
I do not name office hours I cannot stand behind, because the open and the travel make a posted clock useless. We choose a time both of you can keep, and we protect it.
If something urgent comes up between sessions, I can usually offer priority scheduling.
If you or your partner are in crisis, call or text 988, or call 911.
I am licensed in Massachusetts, Connecticut, New Hampshire and Rhode Island. Regular sessions are virtual. You need to be physically in one of those states when we meet.
Fewer, longer meetings are the point. The markets will take back the extra hours you try to invent. We use the time we have. I expect the change to show up between sessions.
Privacy
Nothing about this runs through an employer health plan, and there is no waiting room where someone from the desk might be sitting. A lot of people in this work will not risk being seen walking into a local office. Video removes that lobby.
The practice is private pay, so no insurance claim is filed.
Records stay confidential under HIPAA and state law.
Sessions happen from your own space. There is no waiting room.
If you have questions about what your board or employer asks, check its current wording.
How the work goes
Emotionally Focused Therapy is how I work with finance couples. Gottman Method tools from Level 3 training come in when a sharp comment needs a repair you can actually do. I am also trained in Relational Life Therapy.
The fight is often about a purchase, a bonus, or who was home, and underneath it one of you usually wants to know whether you are still chosen. We follow that. If what you actually want is coaching on the money, I will say so.
I work with the couple in the room. I do not split the hour into a private advisory session for the partner who earns.
If the calendar will not hold a series of sessions, a weekend intensive is a different format, in your home or a place you choose. We talk first about whether that concentration helps, or whether it just recreates the job. Regular sessions stay on Zoom.
FAQ
Can we schedule around market hours and travel?
Yes. We plan around the open, around roadshows, and around the weeks that are simply too full to pretend otherwise. A session can move. What we will not do is keep acting as if the marriage can wait until next quarter.
We fight about money, but it is not about the money. Can you work with that?
Often the fight uses money as the stage. Under it is respect, security, or who holds the power. I do not coach spending, investing, or what a bonus should mean on a spreadsheet. When money is how you fight about the relationship, that is the work I do.
Is this kept private from my firm?
Nothing is filed through your employer, and your desk will not hear about this from me. The practice is private pay, so no insurance claim is filed. Records stay confidential under HIPAA and state law. Sessions happen from your own space. There is no waiting room. If you have questions about what your board or employer asks, check its current wording.
What if one of us is home with the children?
Then the marriage has two jobs, and only one of them comes with a title and a bonus. I work with that split directly. The partner at home is your partner. The partner in the markets is not a guest who arrives after the real day is over.
How is the fee structured?
A session is $750 for 90 minutes. The consultation is 30 minutes and costs $100. That fee applies toward your first session if we go ahead. If I am not the right fit, I refund it. The practice is private pay. I do not bill insurance. I can give you a superbill for out-of-network reimbursement.
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